Caregiving is one of the most difficult, time consuming, and ultimately, most rewarding jobs any of us will have. While there are moments of love and joy, there are often many more moments of isolation, feeling overwhelmed, and frustration. It can be difficult to take a step back and look at your own situation, so I like this list of “9 Secrets of Caregiving” by aarp.com. This is good advice from people who are caregivers themselves, on what has helped them be not only effective caregivers, but functional people in many different roles. Highlights:
#4: Accept Today. The caregiver giving this advice is right: it isn’t fair, nor is it realistic, to expect or wish the person you are caring for could be the way they used to be. We all change as we age, and that time has passed. It is fine to remember those days fondly, but it is also important to redefine what is a “good day”: it may be a day with no pain, or a day with improved communication abilities. Living for today will help you bring peace and joy to your current situation, rather than longing for something that can no longer be.
#7: Get the Legal Stuff Done. Of course, your Elder Law Attorney is going to want to help you take care of this business! Making adequate preparations for incapacity can save you time, money, and frustration. Have those difficult conversations – or let us help you do so! – and get it out of the way so you can concentrate on caring for your loved one.
-Monica
9 Secrets of Caregiving – aarp.com